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Romance Scams are on the Rise


Is it amour - or scam-more?

Lesley Fair - February 11, 2021

Online romance may begin with Panic! At the Dicso's High Hopes, but according to a new FTC Data Spotlight, all too often it ends with the conclusion that - to quote the J. Geils Band - Love Stinks.

Far be it from us to put a damper on Valentine's Day, but reports to the Consumer Sentinel Network suggest that the injury inflicted by romance scams is on the rise.  According to the new Data Spotlight, "For three years running, people have reported losing more money on romance scams than on any other fraud type identified in Sentinel.  In 2020, reported losses to romance scams reached a record $304 million, up about 50% from 2019.  For an individual, that meant a median dollar loss of $2,500."

Why the increase?  The continued popularity of dating apps is part of the story, but the pandemic has played a part, too.  For right now, the need for social distancing and masking makes the "meet cute" at the local coffee shop less likely.  Of course, we've all heard heart-warming stories of romances that started on screen and blossomed IRL, but the Data Spotlight suggest that at least some of those digital dalliances may be hiding something more sinister. 

 What does that have to do with you?  We thought you'd never ask.  Chances are that someone you know - a friend or family member perhaps - has a long-distance love they have yet to meet.  A subtle word from you about the telltale signs of a romance scam could mean one less report to Consumer Sentinel in 2021 about a heart broken and a wallet emptied by a romance scammer.  

It can be a difficult topic to broach, but we have a sure-fire opener: "I just read the most fascinating thing on the website of the Federal Trade Commission, America's consumer protection agency."  (What? That's not your typical conversation starter? No Valentine for you!)

Regardless of how you bring up the topic, Valentine's Day offers a way to share some heart-to-heart hints.

Romance scams can happen to anyone.  According to the Data Spotlight, reports of money lost on romance scams increased for every age group in 2020.  The 20-29 crowd saw the most notable spike, with the number of reports more than doubling since 2019.  People between 40 and 69 were once again the most likely to report losing money to romance scams.  And people 70+ reported the highest individual median losses at $9,475.  

Every picture tells a story, but some of those stories are fiction.  Knowing that fetching photos can lure in a love, scammers routinely steal people's snaps and pass themselves off as the person in the picture.  To investigate their identity, try a reverse-image search of their profile picture or other photos they send you.  If the pictures is associated with another name or if they details don't match up, you're dealing with a scammer.

Don't mix romance with finance.  We've always cautioned people not to wire money or send gift cards to online loves, but we have a new tip to add.  Don't let your guard down just because that special someone sends you money first.  You can bet the money's stolen.  Next, they'll want you to send it on for some cooked-up reason.  This is how people become unwitting accomplices to money laundering.  As soon as the requests for money start, it's time to - depending on your musical generation - Go Your Own Way, bid them Bye Bye Bye, or make it clear that We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together.

The Federal Trade Commission Business Blog  - February 11, 2011


What You Need to Know About Romance Scams

Romance scammers create fake profiles on dating sites and apps, or contact their targets through popular social media sites like Instagram, Facebook, or Google Hangouts.  The scammers strike up a relationship with their targets to build their trust, sometimes talking or chatting several times a day.  Then, they make up a story and ask for money.  
 
The Lies Romance Scammers Tell
They'll often say they're living or traveling outside of the United States.  We've heard about scammers who say they are:
  • working on an oil rig
  • in the military
  • a doctor with an international organization 
We've heard about romance scammers asking their targets for money to:
  • pay for a plane ticket or other travel expenses
  • pay for surgery or other medical expenses
  • pay customs fees to retrieve something
  • pay off gambling debts
  • pay for a visa or other official travel documents
Scammers ask people to pay:
  • by wiring money
  • with reload cards like MoneyPak or gift cards from vendors like Amazon, Google Play, iTunes, or Steam
Scammers ask you to pay by wiring money, with reload cards, or with gift cards because they can get cash quickly and remain anonymous.  They also know the transactions are almost impossible to reverse. 

 
Federal Trade Commission - June 2019


 
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